I used to overshare a lot.

Then learning about my Strategy in Human Design shifted everything

Sep 03, 2025

A song I am loving:

I used to overshare a lot.

In my early 20s, whenever I was in my lowest emotional state, I tended to overshare, overexplain and unload excessively on others close to me in my life. I would share the experience, situation-specific emotionality (grief, anger, resentment), and my mental thought processes.

The long chain texts, long voice memos, you get the gist of it…

I love you, my friends.

Each time I would share a piece of the experience, I would further ingrain the victim narrative in myself.

I would search for external validation as a form of coping mechanism instead of sitting with my emotionality.

With others, I would initiate conversations and inform them without first seeking to know if they had the capacity to hold space for me, and I felt bitter when I did not feel seen and understood. Bless the ones that are in my life till this very day.

I was seeking to feel validated and the need for control.

I acted out of fear, doubt, impatience and ignorance, feeding off a terrifying void of feeling unseen and unappreciated that has pervaded most of my life— a core Projector wound that we all share.

As Projectors, we desire recognition deeply.

Our aura sees so profoundly, and we want the world to witness our wisdom so dearly that it feels vulnerable and insignificant when we are ignored.

Assumed initiation felt like power to me.

An acknowledgement.

At least in the moment.

Only for it to ricochet triplefold on the ground, when it was ignored and left unheeded.

Coupled with my South Node in Cancer and Asian childhood upbringing, I have always assumed the natural role of a fixer. I spent decades tossing unsolicited advice, insights, and guidance to peers, family members, and colleagues.

I thought being a giver was a strength and held onto this “good girl image” for the longest time. Oftentimes, it left me with a pang of bitterness that can only be described as invisibility and insignificance.

In my romantic relationships, the ones that failed terribly and led to conflict and disharmony were the ones where I was not formally recognized or invited. They were the ones that felt fleeting, “butterflies in the stomach” in the beginning; the ones heavily charged and clouded by emotional intensity and undeniable chemistry for the other.

It was only when I learned about my Human Design and strategy as a Projector that it all began to make sense. Perhaps you, too, have an experience you can think of right now.

You may be thinking: But waiting just feels so difficult, and I don’t understand why.

I get it.

Because we live in a homogenized world that has governed our way of living before Human Design came into our lives. A world that feeds off urgency and conformity: deadlines, metrics, competition, “time is money,” and efficiency.

As heavily conditioned Projectors, we were so busy tying our worth to fit in, to be approved, and to be loved that it feels like all we do is just trying to survive.

Exist, not live.

What if I tell you that another reality can exist?

That, this reality already simultaneously exist in a parallel reality while you are reading this?

What if waiting is not here to limit you, but to expand your potential as a Projector?

What if waiting is your medicine for co-creation?

What if waiting is refinement, alignment, discernment and energetic sustainability all packaged together?

What if waiting is just a word disguised as sovereignty for a Projector?

What if in waiting, is you verbalizing to the world, “This is enough. I am opting out of this urgency and conformity. I am doing it my way. My Projector Way.”

There is power in the waiting.

As a Projector, every role of initiating, responding, and informing without being invited will be met with resistance, which can make us feel inadequate, unseen, and unrecognized.

When we wait for the invitation, we adopt mechanisms to slow down and not rush for things to happen. It helps us lean into our natural feminine energetics of receptivity, supporting us to thrive as Projectors. It also allows others (sacral and non-sacrals) to be drawn to us at the correct timing and for them to recognize our gifts and wisdom. Most of all, waiting for the invitation creates energetic coherence and harmony for us and everyone around us.

If you have not explored my free Projector’s 3 Agents of Change Guidebook, in it, I teach you how to navigate our Strategy as a Projector with ease and clarity. I share about:

De-mystifying Invitations
Recognition Before Invitations
The Art of Active Waiting

Click here for the free toolkit.

Feel free to share about your experience and reflections following this journey. I would love to hear from you below!

A few reflection prompts for you:

What emotions arise in me when I think about waiting instead of initiating?
Do I equate waiting with laziness or weakness? Where does that belief come from?
What experiences in your past can you think of where you have not waited for the invitation?
What is your current narrative with the idea of waiting?
How does my body feel when I’m rushing to initiate versus when I allow myself to pause?
Who am I when I no longer measure myself against the doing of others?

Meanwhile, my signature The Projector Remembrance Program (TPR) is open for waitlist for Spring '26.

The Projector Remembrance is a powerful, small-group and deeply intimate 12-week group mentorship container designed to support and uplevel Projector women with the guiding awareness of their unique divinity. This signature group program is rooted in:

ꫂ differentiation- first
ꫂ community
ꫂ practical embodiment

Centering around the technology of Human Design and Neuroscience,
The Projector Remembrance (TPR) is for soul-led Projector women who hold the readiness to wholeheartedly uplevel, ground in their Projector resiliency, and expand their confidence in their Projector divinity alongside an empowered Projector women community.

To decondition,

to heal, and realign with our divinity together.

If you resonate with the above and are seeking a transformative program grounded in differentiation, community, and practical embodiment, I would be delighted to invite you to The Projector Remembrance (TPR).

If you would like to work 1:1 with me right now, I currently have spaces for 1:1 Shui and 1:1 Projector Soft Business.

May this be the invitation you have been waiting for, Projector.

join the waitlist for Spring

Explore some love notes below from past TPR Alumni students:

“I am in such a deep space of embodied space.”
“My life is still busy and noisy, and I still have significant challenges to overcome, but I have space in myself still. It's the best feeling in the world and it's a feeling I have not yet experienced in my life because I was too busy trying to survive.
I am now working with my body, mind and soul and not against it. Really understanding my splenic authority and individual rhythm and my own Human Design has truly been a beautiful experience for me.
Rachel H, 5/1 Splenic Projector

“I laughed, cried, and discovered who I was amongst a great group of women.”
“I had the honor of being in the last session of TPR. I did not know what to expect when I signed up, but I know that I was divinely led to this container at the right time in my journey. I laughed, cried, and discovered who I was amongst a great group of women. I am more empowered as a projector, and really learned how to step forth as who I am. I have always hid in the shadows, but TPR showed me that I am not made to be this way. I was created with a tribal circuitry, and I was created to be seen. This container helped me release societal conditioning and truly embrace my uniqueness and who I am. More importantly, I no longer feel alone. I have others just like me on their own path, and we can support each other.
After this intense experience, I am all in with myself. I am all in with life.”

Allonia W,1/3 Splenic Projector

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